Mrs. Kavitha Sivakumar

I used to think many a time why elders in the family are resistant to renewing themselves or refreshing them with what they want or wish to have. Elders in the family like Parents or Grandparents always think of their children or grandchildren many times. They are not even ready to spend a few bucks to renew themselves. Be it buying a dress they like with a little extra cost, a haircut, or some extra stuff they want to do for their soul satisfaction. Do we need to sacrifice everything including the renewal of oneself or refreshing the mind for the sake of Children or Grandchildren? It is not really required and let us live our lives on at least a few occasions. However, we want to live without thinking of others or any family members, obviously without destroying morals. I had a chance to take my mother out to a hotel alone when she visited Bengaluru this Summer. But she really had a concern for her Grandchildren who visited my home along with her. I have never seen my mom fulfil...

Everyone has something or someone in one's life to be emotionally attached to. It can be Mother, Father, Siblings, Grandparents, Doggie, friends, besties, better half, etc. If your loved one is leaving you or staying apart for a few days or a few weeks, your heart starts becoming burdened and your heart melts for them. It is because of the unconditional love you have with them. computer table I had something similar to that. Two days back I disposed of my computer table which traveled along with me for 15 years with a heavy heart. The emotional attachment I have with that table is really beautiful. Everyday morning I start my day by seeing that table.  It is quite lengthy and broad enough to have my one big monitor and two laptops along with my small book library on the table. I have spent many hours at the computer table over the last 15 years of my career. I have cried, slept, and worked with that.  At one point in time, I wanted to have some change. After getting rid of the...

Decision making is an art! Decision making can be made for any reason. Usually in family decisions will be made by family head or the elders in the family. Many of us do not consider or not even ask the opinion about an important decision with the kids or adults in the family. Dear Readers, In my opinion, if we consider the opinions from all the family member and then after discussing the pros and cons of the decision for things will give a better result. Because everyone in the family feels valued for them and they own the decision and do support as much as they can to fulfill the decision made. Of course elders may think that, kids or adults are not having enough experiences in the life to make some decision. Young generation expects them to be valued in the family to be more responsible. Their perspective of thinking is really ground breaking. Day in day out they also explore the world digitally. Collective decision in a family definitely yield a better result.  Team work is the...

We are really blessed if we get some hands to shade our worries by sharing with them.  But not everyone is blessed to have blessings like this. Some in the world are still looking for a blessing to get a helping hand during their tough time to get a helping hand.  I was told by a person saying that I am really blessed today. I am really flabbergasted to hear such words from someone who is not our close relative, friends, or family. We usually attend a lot of meetings and many might not touch our hearts. I have attended thousands of meetings. One such meeting is Theantamil Toastmasters Club's meeting by March 9th, 2024 through online. The person was trying to answer all my silly queries for an hour, about how to start with the journey or hurdle in. The spark he gave me broke all my barriers and I started writing blogs. I am still not an expert in writing blogs. Day in and day out I am trying to improvise my writing skills in one or the other form. But the inspiration he has giv...

Every situation provides us an opportunity to learn and grow day in, and day out. Somehow I gained the trust to get nominated by the director for a wonderful training program, especially for women's leadership within 10 months of timeframe in the new organization. Fortunately, I have had a chance to attend the WINGS (Women In Gaming) Women Leadership Training program by my company  Light & Wonder . The Trainer who might be 60+ years old shared amazing experiences of her own life while teaching us strategic networking, work-life balance, personal branding, etc. A two-day full-day ground working training program taught me a lot of things. Actual learning starts not at the training to be frank. It is how we implement the lessons learned in day-to-day life and get more benefits. In the frame: WINGS Participants along with the trainer Sangeeta Murthi Sahgal (she/her) ma'am and a woman leader  Mili Dalmia    In the frame:  Kavitha Karuppanan  and WINGS trai...

On a lovely evening legs were putting steps in araimandi pose in Barathanatiyam class. This was an art picked up by me very recently a month and a half ago. It's been one of my wish lists to learn since my team age.  From the middle class family background, I did not even had a courage to let my know the wish of my learnings of these extra curricular activities in school days. Days passed by and after becoming a mother of  10 year old I decided to pick this art with my own earnings. Without any social pressure or any competition, with out any urge to learn quickly started learning this art. I am a kind of person who does not know any simple steps in dance for almost 3 decades. Here are some benifits I realised so far- Boost up confidence: This new form of art boosted the confidence in me.  I got to learn that age is no bar for learning new. Stress Relief: This dance is completely giving a new thoughts which helps to refresh my mind from the daily routine. Hence I call it ...

 If we ask who are we, many of us start answering with the name, family background, or somebody's son or daughter. Out of this I strongly believe that the profession or occupation gives us a real identity. Especially women who are independent financially have a true identity for them apart from the role they play in society. Be it a Mother, Sister, Wife, or Colleague, etc. Though they are trying to manage the house for the whole day without even earning a single penny, this society does not respect her for a unique talent or identity. In case if woman balances both profession and family, society and her own family members look at her in a different identity and give her respect. This is not always a smooth transition for women to get a unique identity. Many times, they have to go through a lot of struggles to have their own freedom in this society. This can't be denied by anyone who truly understands the value of women in this society. Personally, I have an identity through my ...

Kids used to cry for everything. It's the way they try to convey to the parents that they need something. Kids may not know how to express their wants in other forms than crying. But as we grow up in life, crying might not solve all our wants and needs. The tears that we shed should be worth it. Tears from kids, parents, adults, orphans, and elders are different from each other. Respecting others' tears gives us a kind of different feelings. Let's not be the reason for the tears of anyone. Tears are priceless. 

As all we know, International Women's Day is celebrated across the world on the 8th of March every year. We do wish women at the workplace, and some wish their mom, grandmother, aunt, and sisters too at the family on that day. Women feel happy and feel so special on that day without any doubt. But do you think that women are to celebrate only one day in a year? Are they not eligible or capable of being celebrated every year by others in this society, for the work and challenges they face every day and still trying to run their family and take this society to the next level?   I was fortunate enough to be part of the Women's Day celebration at my office today. There were some men guests too participated in the Women's Day celebration event. It is just for the sake of celebration do we invite male employees too? Do all the male employees celebrate and respect their female employees as per their skills and talent rather than gossip at the backs about the female employees...

Anniversary of Birthdays or weddings or anything else always leaves us with an expectation for all of us. On my 12th wedding anniversary today, I also had some expectations towards the wedding anniversary as a normal human being, that I could get any gift from my husband or any flowers at least as a small gift. But when I was down with a fever for the entire day, the way my husband took care of me and the cooking for the full day along with his hectic work schedule, left an impact on me realizing that exchanging gifts is not the exact way of showing true love. Exchanging the care whenever needed is true love. Expectation always hurts. Reduce the expectations and shower the love as much as possible. Let's accept the better half as they are! Lets us understand the reality of life. A gift is not the only way of exchanging love on some special occasion. Caring for one another is also true between couples.

When we feel happy, our minds usually do not seek anybody to give us a shoulder to share the happiness. But if we feel down at times our mind seeks a shoulder to cry out with our emotions. However, a pillow on the couch is the best companionship for many of us to cry out or shed tears at times of the night. But, during the daytime, our energy drinks like coffee or tea not only help us to relax and give freshness to our body and brain but also help us to bring all our sorrows or lowness out of our mind. A lot of solutions can be found for the unsolvable problems of our lives while drinking hot tea or coffee. I do not call tea or coffee a habit of addiction anymore, if people long to have it when they can feel better after sipping a cup of tea or coffee if they need it many times in a day until it gives them happiness, job, cherished, calm, cool and composed. I am the kind of person who loves tea and is ready to drink it whenever it is going to be offered to me, happily. I always had a g...

Fortunately, I have got a chance to raise my voice to ask some questions to a writer Erode Kathir whom I have met virtually in a Toastmasters club meeting. The Toastmasters meeting emphasized the importance of book reading and did a book review of that specific author as well. Before shooting my questions to the writer, my inner voice questioned me that am I eligible to ask questions about the writing journey as I hadn't given a try to write a single line to publish in any blogs. Still, my inner mind threatened me to not ask any silly questions. I was somehow convinced and asked the questions that came out of my heart as I could feel the writer was so interesting and inspiring.  So I gathered all my courage and started asking questions without even bothering others and my inner mind. The opportunity got extended in the networking session as well once the Toastmasters meeting was over. The writer was shooted up with a couple more questions by me. I could say that the questions which...